I hate to say it
But the daughter has some antisocial disorder traits
And for her 15th bday
Her mom spent more money and attention on the toddler
She got a new baby and puts all her personality in being his mom
Her friends didn't even act like they were there for her
They were just there for the party
All of this shit is what leads up to a kid snapping
When he (the toddler) was a few months old
I was babysitting
She looked at him (her baby brother) with hate
She hit him with a pillow a few times
Kinda aggressively
But it was ok
I told her to stop
So she hit me with the pillow
I made her stop
Then later
She knocked him off the couch into the floor to hurt him and tried to blame me because I looked away
But I saw her
And I had pillows all over the floor just in case he fell off the couch
And she tried to push him past the pillows
He was crying but ok
I questioned her
She just deflected
She went from being openly violent to more reserved and calm on the outside
Holding all of her emotions back
On the surface
It's impressive
She just blocks out all of the noise
But she holds it all inside
She's got the rage in her
And when it comes out
Well I'm worried
In reality
She probably needs therapy
But I guess there's a hope that therapy can be avoided
I know her mom doesn't notice
I'm too close to it
And all that makes it harder
Her dad left immediately
She has abandonment issues
Her mom got with a POS and that's the only "dad" she knew for a while
Her "step dad"
He was on meth
He stole the mom's mother's Day gifts from her kids
They banned together to get her a gold necklace
He pawned it
He beat her
He beat her for me stopping by with my friends I was out with because they all happened to be male
The daughter saw all this
She saw her mom let it happen
I think it fucked her up
She saw my part
Which was... Aggressive...
The "step dad" is dead now
(Cause unknown - long dramatic story)
Before he died I cornered him and made him cry and shook him down taking everything in his pockets and called it a grief tax for being a POS and beating my friend and still trying to take advantage of her kindness and ignorance
And... The kids saw me as... Something... Idk... But something.
It's possible I fucked them kids up too
Idk
Josh was the POS and the excuse for a weird crusade
He got involved with bad people
He was tied up and beaten and "tortured"
And given a high dose of drugs after a few days of being deprived
And some people went nuts
The woman that pimped out her kids dropped them off at my friend's house and they made her daughter more....... Crazy... For lack of better phrasing.
All these kids were exposed to a lot of insanity
On one hand
You gotta wonder if they're acceptant of murder via drugs
It was a reoccurring theme
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Extra note:
Thoughts ---
Don't compare yourself to this mom
This is less than the bare minimum
When you feel like a bad mom
Don't say
At least I'm better than her
I took her kids in and tried to help them
Yupp you did
But ..... I don't wanna tell you what to do... But I know you can do better
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Side note:
She's gotten into D&D
Other players are concerned with her behavior
She keeps pushing them off of things and trying to kill them instead of working with them
She plays with a few different groups (more than me) but I've talked to the GMs wife
And it makes sense
IRL I made an excuse for her and I know that's not necessarily productive
I'm sure she's going to need to talk more
Maybe to a specialist
I'd honestly hate to see her thrown into the system or be labeled so young
I'm sure there's something that can be done
This might be a problem
Too afraid she might turn into a psychopath
Extra side note:
The other night she told me a random memory
And I had forgotten about it
But I remember
We were celebrating
Me her mom and some friends
After she was put to bed
At her grandma's house
And she came out and said
Mom I need a drink
And I looked at her and said
No you're too young to drink
And it kinda stuck with me because I was always the one to tell her don't you do the shit we do
Don't you dare drink or smoke
And now she's a teenager approaching adulthood still saying no to alcohol, cigarettes and drugs.
She listens to me....
I don't want to say that in front of her mom / my friend
Because that shit makes her really proud
She feels like she's raising her kid right
Based on the behavior
And if she assumes that I've played a bigger role
It'll hurt her
However... The other stuff... That's between her mom and the internet...
When she started playing Roblox I said it's full of predators
Her mom was concerned but did nothing
After all kinds of creepy people reached out
All I can say is
I'm glad more people know ts full of pedis and weirdos
And that's how it goes
Her mom gets concerned
But no real action is taken
So the only thing to do is to have a real conversation with this kid and make her understand that internet people are just terminally online psychos
I'm all for trans rights but when adult men identifying as women are trying to talk to very young girls they met on a forum for kids
I got a problem
The Republican parents don't know
And I'm more left leaning now
And all of this apparently matters
But idgaf
There's no reason you need to groom this girl
behind her parents back at that
She has no idea what she is
And that's fine
She needs space to figure it out
But no one
Especially not some rando internet freak
Needs to tell her what she is
He doesn't talk to her anymore
I didn't tell her mom
But he's gone
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed
Thread collapsed