If I had to guess it's not about not caring about privacy, it's just a lack of education on how those systems compromise your privacy and monitize your data.
Most people don’t see a problem because they’ve never had to notice one. They’ve normalized total exposure in exchange for a sliver of convenience. No threat model. No critical lens. Just “tap to join.”
Your plan to mirror their infrastructure with FOSS is solid but don’t expect mass adoption. Build it for the one or two who do wake up. And if no one bites, you’ve still kept your dignity intact and your child’s data out of Zuckerborg’s archive.
Stay the course. Keep planting seeds. Some won’t sprout. Some will. Meanwhile, Nostr has more signal than most realize. There are other families out there quietly opting out. They're just not loud yet.