It doesn’t matter how individuals define things. Humans vary & should be respected just for being human.

My first marriage gave me my children & he’s an amazing man & still an excellent father. He has had same girlfriend for years & I respect her for many reasons.

That said: I’m not married nor engaged nor plan to marry anyone ever again. Life has changed & there is no one who is appropriate for me. That’s probably always been true. It’s just taken my big dense brain too long to accept it. No one will ever satisfy me completely. Men who I’ve been with said they could handle things differently but everyone has failed to prove it. Hence, I have no desire to marry again. Nor to be in a relationship with anyone. There was always only one person I loved completely. He doesn’t reciprocate so there is no reason for me to “fake it” with anyone else.

It is what it is. Life goes on. I’m happy … enough. Love will always guide me decisions for humanity. Logic minded thinking makes it easy.

My personal emotional feelings don’t matter.