wanting a Wife is not the same as wanting to be a good husband.
how do you define a good husband?
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Not me. 🤷♂️
acknowledgement is the first part of improvement ^^
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the next is "want to"
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True.
There is a desire, but, that desire is always tempered by my self-limiting laziness and fear. 🤷♂️
what do you fear?
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Failure and pain.
i know how it feels...
it'll hurt regardless.
but even if it feels hopeless, there are better days on the other side.
but it starts with you.
it starts with a lot of introspection.
and it starts with owning your shit.
you have tremendous power for change.
but it's not easy...
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I do too much introspection and not enough action.
do you write it out?
it helped me to do this.
sometimes you just start with humility and a heartfelt apology.
and own the backlash—when we check out, we have no idea of the emotional baggage our Wives are carrying. the floodgates may open, but it may take awhile depending on how long things haven't been great...
but you have to be ready to change...
do you know that mostly those who fear to love, are those who love dearly and with loyalty? the fear usually stem from previous pain and being let down by others which is normal! ☺️
It doesn’t matter how individuals define things. Humans vary & should be respected just for being human.
My first marriage gave me my children & he’s an amazing man & still an excellent father. He has had same girlfriend for years & I respect her for many reasons.
That said: I’m not married nor engaged nor plan to marry anyone ever again. Life has changed & there is no one who is appropriate for me. That’s probably always been true. It’s just taken my big dense brain too long to accept it. No one will ever satisfy me completely. Men who I’ve been with said they could handle things differently but everyone has failed to prove it. Hence, I have no desire to marry again. Nor to be in a relationship with anyone. There was always only one person I loved completely. He doesn’t reciprocate so there is no reason for me to “fake it” with anyone else.
It is what it is. Life goes on. I’m happy … enough. Love will always guide me decisions for humanity. Logic minded thinking makes it easy.
My personal emotional feelings don’t matter.
as you say, humans are different and we each have our own journey.
i'm sorry to hear about your unrequited love...
but i think your emotional feelings matter, so thank you for sharing some of your story—your determination to keep love in your heart is inspiring. ^^
Not the first time my hearts been broken. It’s just the last time I’ll ever allow it to be broken again. Besides: I’ve been a heartbreaker in my past so it’s been a good lesson to learn. It was never my intention to hurt others but life is what it is.
It’s not that I’m cold or closed off. It’s not fair to anyone to attempt a relationship again.
Even the person I live with was my partner for many years. Explained it all to him & he understands my situation & feelings. Man doesn’t judge me for it either.
