Your son will be either on the right or the left of the hamster wheel - sounds like he may be more on the left but I might have inferred wrongly from your message. The weight you mentioned is the gift to observe. I would guess you worry that he may be/feel unable in some way.
So in understanding your thoughts/framework about him, you will start to see a pattern emerge and you will start to be able to observe it more and more. I would suggest that pattern will work like a hamster wheel. The beautiful thing is, once you see your own wheel spinning, you create space for something different to emerge—both for you and for him.🙏