NOSTR is to empower users not to empower software. keep it simple and you will win. I dont understand why a client is consuming so much bandwidth if connection.pushing and getting events are on client side yo should keep it more simple .... It remembers me the oldie classic marketing tricks as oldie social media products did. Good luck.
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consuming so much bandwith server side* I dont understand why, maybe your app it is not that simple as nostr protocol spirit....