Anyone who's dealt with narcissistic abuse must dive deep into inner child work and look at mother and father or whatever parental figures. This kind of dynamic has most likely started within a narcissistic family system. The healing road while totally available is a arduous, intense and painful if one is willing to end spiritually bypassing and gaslighting themselves. It usually takes many years and peeling many layers and the work is not linear. At the end of the day early childhood traumatic Neuro pathways may never be gone but stronger more life affirmive ones can be built and affirmed with deep devotion, courage and inner strength. It's a true spiritual warrior's path who arrives to know himself/herself as whole, healed and inherently worthy.