Does anyone ever feel like your friends sometimes deny you of your ability to be an even better friend?
I think it’s those who keep their troubles to themselves. The “I don’t want to burden you” friends.
Trust is built upon your ability to ask for help. I learned this not long ago and I believe it’s true.
Step 1: have friends :P
I think you are right and I also believe that
My very best friend is EXACTLY like this, I worry for him, his mental health isn't great but he always insists "I'm fine", when asked, when I know, he's not. I tell him I love him and I'm always here for him whenever I think he particularly needs to hear it though.
This is what I like to refer to an "area of opportunity" in my personal development. I need to get much better at it.
Me too. I'm a WIP in this department in my constant life of WIP.
could be a symptom of childhood neglect..? it's not easy to shake off...
I wouldn't frame it like that. I think the case is that they are unable to ask for help for whatever reason, maybe they unconsciously don't feel they deserve that help.
I've found that just letting them know that they can ask for help even for the tiny stuff (specially for that). They slowly open up, sometimes just being there to hear them helps a lot.
We are all learning and maybe asking for help and how to offer it is a learning experience
I think there are unspoken lines in friendship that don’t need to be said.. such as, I’m your friend, of course you can come to me for help.
Different flavours for different people but I do believe it’s true that it builds trust.
Do the experiment, try saying what is now unspoken I genuinely think you will be surprised for the better
For things that are easy to fic, yeah. I get it.
Some things are quite nearly impossible to fix and people get empathy fatigue. And this is why I have to write or see a therapist.
Different flavours for everyone, of course.
If your friends that you mention are men, then maybe after a certain point they don't see you as a friend only but as a woman also.
Reminds me of the album sons of 1973 - satellite lovers
Yes.
I assume you mean emotional troubles. Right? Well, there's a long list of issues that can contribute to such behavior. But, yes, I agree with you for the most part.
Well, it's important to remember that trust is built in a fairly different way among genders and is also built upon many things other than the ability to ask for help. For example, when guys share their emotional troubles among their other guy friends, we might end up getting ridiculed or neglected and possibly feel inferior in some ways. There's also some situations when we know a problem can't be entirely fixed, which can lead us to being excessively hesitant to share or cause us to think something along the lines of "why even bother sharing?"🤷♂️. Unlike women, men (more often than not) build trust through less empathetic means of communication and action. Displaying characteristics like good problem-solving capabilities, mutual interests, and camaraderie are great ways to build trust with men. Also, I've observed that men generally become more open with emotional matters after someone has proven to possess the preferred level of efficiency in these and related things. As for women... well... I'm still trying to understand you guys😅😁😁.
