Yeah, the lack of LN address is a deal-breaker for use with nostr. I'm just trying out Minibits, it's very nice. But as you said, no on-chain yet. I'm sure it's coming soon though, as integrating boltz swaps is quite straightforward I believe.
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If you want on-chain, lightning, and lightning address, Speed Wallet is the only choice. Just be cautious about putting large sums of coin into Speed Wallet because the custodial nature. I'm also keeping my eye on Coinos.io. They've got some issues to work out, but it's got the potential to be a excellent wallet option.