So many of us are making this compromise that we would otherwise never do because BOLT12 isn't widely available.

LNURL/Lightning Address requiring several layers including interface software, web server, TLS cert, and domain name is too high of a bar. If all LN nodes supported BOLT12 you would need none of that. It would be widely available in an actually decentralized manner. It would also have far better privacy with blinded routes.

Demand BOLT12 from LND today. Or switch to any of the other node implementations that prioritize interoperable standards, pretty much everything not LND.