I've been on the internet too long. If I were a dudette I'd lie.
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That's why a clever indirect question is needed
"Gosh, I hate it when my nuts get twisted, isn't that a very relatable experience my fellow penis havers?"
"Oh man, don't you hate it after going to the gym and your sports bra is too sweaty so it's hard to get off your lady-titties? Who can relate to having naturally grown titties?"
Or are you trying to be even more indirect and want to make some wild and incorrect assumptions about hobbies?
"Ah it's Sunday! I enjoy watching footballs and scratching my belly while drinking beer and belching, who is with me in doing this every Sunday?"
"Ah it's Friday! Who is washing and curling their hair and doing a face mask while rejecting perfectly adequate nice guys and contributing to the declining birth rates?"
Literally if they don't want to tell you they're not going to engage with any question however "cleverly indirect" you make it. If it's not obvious then they're probably not interested in being doxxed as a lady because they're not interested in getting attention from men who are trying to interact with ladies. Dudes can be really insufferable. It would help if there weren't so many unsolicited dick pics but y'all can't seem to help yourselves.
As someone who spend many many years not being open about being a lady online, I would know.
These are awesome
Question I'm afraid to ask... Do they really send dick pics? Isn't that an automatic disqualifier?
I've been on Nostr 6 months now, purposely putting myself out there as a lady to communicate with me folks and hopefully make friends and maybe meet someone special eventually. Would you like to guess how many times I've had this exact conversation in my DMs?
Them: oh hey I want to send you something I think you'd like
Me: ok, but is it a picture of your penis? I do not want that please no dick pics.
Them: no no I'd never do that
Me: 🤔 ok but really you don't need to send me any pics we could just talk that can also be nice. I don't need or really want any pics at all, but especially not dic pics.
Them: no I'd never send a dic pic but you're really going to like this!
Me: ok fine if it's absolutely not a picture of your penis and you think it's something I'd like then fine.
Them: (sends picture from perspective of their penis, which also includes base of their penis. It's not a flattering angle and is not attractive and still includes their dick.)
Me: 😑
Wow. Well at least you know who isn't a candidate... Tbh before you said this, I would've guessed zero times. But I'll take your word for it, please don't prove anything.
It's averaging at least once a month 😅
If you don't already have this, consider starting a ladies' group where you can safely out the dudes who did that and anything else like that
But... unhappy conclusion... The fact that it keeps happening probably means some ladies like it. Well... Maybe such a group is useful for them too.
Eh, maybe. I wouldn't feel good thinking dudes are in group chats talking about the ladies and I don't know that I would feel good doing this in reverse. None of them have felt harassing or gross just dudes sincerely do not seem to understand what women want and also seem to not believe women when we directly say what we want.
It's as if their thought process is like... I want to see a picture of her sexy bits, so I will send her a picture of mine and then she'll respond in kind! Which is not accurate. The only strategy I've responded to is a guy who adamantly did not want pictures, then insisted that if I really wanted to send pictures then it better be one off disappearing pictures. But at no point did I see his bits and that's why I like him 😅
For me, the sexiest part of a guy is like, the upper chest / clavicle area? Or the forearms / wrist area? It's a matter of perspective, what am I seeing if/when this is successful and we actually hook up? I'm not really seeing dick in the heat of the moment like that.