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then why is it so difficult sometimes?

to be seen, to be known...

takes courage

Juls 5mo ago

Yes, it really does take courage — both to speak and to create a space where someone feels safe enough to share.

I think the context, and who we’re speaking to, makes such a difference. For some people, expressing feelings comes naturally, but if the listener isn’t open or able to hear them, it can make you feel small, unseen, or misunderstood.

Sometimes there is the wish that others could just ‘know’ us, or know themselves well enough to understand the impact of their actions without us saying anything. But truly that may lead to unfair treatments towards others and own disappointment.

It's really an "I" statement and the point isn't to blame or argue, but to open a door to understanding and work towards avoid/help future similar situations.

Want to share what was in your mind when you said that?

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purrs_for_Her 5mo ago

thanks for taking the time to respond, Juls. you bring up a lot of relatable sentiments...

i used to struggle so much with expressing my feelings, and sometimes still do if i'm being honest. there was always a great fear of being known within me, so much so that i could feel it physically like an intense tightness in my chest. because to be seen, and then to be unloved is beyond terrifying—it's like an existential dread.

to lay yourself bare emotionally before another—without pretense—is extremely vulnerable. but without that vulnerability there can't be true love.

in the past, my attempts to "surrender" before i could be vulnerable were no more than manipulations—pleas for validation. my attempts to "love" without vulnerability were simply placating my ego.

my journey as a submissive has encouraged me to recognize and embrace vulnerability. and perhaps that's why i was drawn to this path, because without vulnerability i would have never been able to love or be loved...

idk, your post made me think about how far i've come and how far i still have to go

Juls 5mo ago

This is beautiful. The fact that you’re sharing your growth and self-development journey so openly is an act of vulnerability in itself.

Admitting that your ego was winning battles, and that you tried to compensate for a lack of vulnerability in other ways, is huge. That takes courage.

I couldn't agree more, love can't be built without vulnerability, and that vulnerability being met with understanding.

I’m so glad you’ve found someone with whom you feel safe bringing your fears, happiness, sadness and excitement to the table. The body keeps the score — and some wounds can only be healed when you allow someone to stand beside you 💜

Thank you for sharing this.

purrs_for_Her 5mo ago

and thank you for the opportunity to express this.

sharing this with others doesn't feel that daunting after expressing this to the One who holds my soul—after expressing how i've hurt Her with my own selfishness, insecurities, and pain...

the journey isn't over yet.

but i realize how fortunate i really am...

keep on keeping on with your own journey as well.

the things you share are very motivating. :3

<333

Juls 5mo ago

Honestly, your words actually bring tears to my eyes.

You've overcome for your loved one and yourself what many aren't willing to even acknowledge.

Noone's journey is over, but is important to not be afraid of the past to be able to change the future 🫂

purrs_for_Her 5mo ago

thank you, Juls.

tears were in the writing as well.

Juls 5mo ago

Thank you for sharing 🫂