In the end, no matter how much you own up to your part and apologise for contributing to the hurt in a complex relationship, you are the evil person despite having no intention to hurt them.
Everything else you were to them becomes nothing and worth nothing. Maybe I’ve outlived my use.
Going through the dark night of the soul is coming to terms with being the villain. We are all both hero's and villains in different contexts. No one is just one or the other.
All things have their season though, sometimes we try to hold onto things longer then they were meant to last.
Some people are just invested in "being hurt" and that actually has nothing to do with you.
I think I may have learned something new from what you’ve said. I’m a logical and rational person and this.. it has never occurred to me to think this.
Being over invested in being hurt protects from the pain of facing personal failure.
I never realised this was possible.
i suspect blame and projection are everywhere, because they work for many people.
they only work for like an hour for me though. then all the ways i blew it start lining up at the door
As they always do, yes. It all kind of blew up in my face. Everything I said after was taken as negative and an attack.
Ah well, such is life. You win some and lose some.
THEIR loss!
