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Being with a man who truly deeply cares about you and wants to nurture you like the beautiful little flower you are, makes your life flourish. A man that wants to invest in your own happiness, when he takes no more benefit than just seeing you thrive, that’s pure love. That’s a gift you shouldn’t be taking for granted.

Real love heals.

Your skin changes, your smile changes, your gaze changes. The way you treat people and how committed you are.

You become kinder, calmer, softer, you like yourself more and suddenly you want to be the best version of yourself not just for him but for you too. The self love you thought you were never going to have for yourself suddenly appears around him. Sometimes love knocks your door when you are not your best self yet, but God sends you someone willing to accept you how you are who is seeing your potential and will help you through the process of improving as a woman, teaching you and guiding you with a patient heart, believing that you are gonna make it.

That is the man that deserves your devotion, loyalty and the fruits of your growth. The one who saw you for who you truly were without any masks, allowed you to rest in your feminine energy and not stress about life anymore. The one that made you feel seen, heard and understood.

That dynamic becomes addictive.

That’s a real man.

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librekitty 2mo ago

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purrs_for_Her 2mo ago

wow

i have a lot of thoughts. a lot of this is great stuff about the nature of unconditional love, and really sweet sounding.

but the this line stopped me dead in my tracks:

"The self love you thought you were never going to have for yourself suddenly appears around him."

that's...

that's... a lot.

as someone who once sought validation through their partner, i can tell you that this is not a healthy way to relationship. it will severely limit your ability to love and be loved. no one can love you enough for you to love yourself; it must come from within.

there could be a larger societal discussion here. society often pushes the notion upon women that they aren't "complete" or worthy unless they are "chosen" by a man. many times encouraging them to settle for less than they deserve or be doomed to be "alone." and that's not fair.

i'm probably reading too much into it, but that line really stuck out to me.

Cupid’s Daughter 2mo ago

Valid point, but I feel maybe I didn’t express it well in the text. What I’m trying to say is that once you meet someone that changes your life forever, they teach you to love yourself more in ways you didn’t even -know- you could and you start respecting yourself more. On the other hand you feel like the best version of yourself around them, you embrace the version you are.

purrs_for_Her 2mo ago

i think i understand what you are trying to express. but i don't think anyone can "teach" you to love yourself—it has to come from within.

maybe inspire would be a better word? my Wife has shaped me into a much better person than i would ever be without Her, but i don't think She could teach me that.

i recognized that self-love was what i was lacking when i noticed a pattern of hurt due to validation seeking. but i had to do the work myself in order to rise and meet Her where i could love and be loved...

idk if that makes sense