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*Heavy sigh*

Guys, don't over-text at the beginning of things. Less communication allows mystery, excitement, and anticipation to build. Once a day is nice, but until you develop a rapport keep communication light and in person.

I was on the fence but willing to give this guy a second chance. But already yesterday afternoon I was feeling meh about him and started giving one word responses. Then I just stopped responding. Since then he's told me about having old spaghetti for dinner, telling his daughter all about me, waxed poetic about how he never leaves the house... And it's not stopping. He's sending me random updates every hour or two.

I feel really bad but I'm not running a charity here and I don't feel excited about this second date so I'm going to cancel.

Bill Cypher 3mo ago

The difference between stalking and romance is the consent of the victim. The end of Say Anything is a call the cops moment if her answer is no as a perfect example.

If you were head over heels for someone you would never think "you again" when they messaged you.

This isn't a character flaw until it continues after you turn him down. Until then it is a mismatched interest level that you haven't communicated clearly.

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Kip Ashlynn 3mo ago

Yea already on the first date I had explained that I prefer in person communication at the beginning. So that not being heard is not a great sign for me 😅

Bill Cypher 3mo ago

Information I didn't have.

Kip Ashlynn 3mo ago

I like a very slow pace of communication to start, because I don't want to worry about being love bombed. If they're fast at the start, I worry there's a reason why they want it so fast. If I fall head over heels quickly it's hard to pull out when the red flags start waving. Literally exactly what I said on the first date and he was like yes I really respect that!