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Do you think deep, romantic love has always been rare and we just don't realize that because there's been so many stories told of it?

Or do you think it's become rarer because of the atomization, materialism or etc. of our society?

MichaelJ 1y ago

I think we've forgotten what romantic love means.

A romance in classical and medieval literature is, archetypically, a story that tells about how true love (true in the sense of faithful) overcomes obstacles for the sake of union with the other. At its core, a romance is an adventure.

Now, in life, there is no shortage of opportunities for adventure. What is lacking is individuals willing to embrace the risk, danger, and hardships associated with it.

Almost any marriage that has stood the test of years will have had its trials and adventures. With more people marrying late, or getting divorced, many have been denying themselves the opportunity for romance.

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unit 1y ago

100% on 🎯

Samah 1y ago

There’s no long lasting love with some degree of sacrifice. Few people are willing to make peace with that these days.

MichaelJ 1y ago

I'd even contend that there is no long lasting love without *great* sacrifice. To consistently, throughout your life, make a place for another requires a constant emptying of self.

That is terrifying.

There are rewards for those who embrace the sacrifice, though.

Samah 1y ago

That is more courageously put. 💯

Even “just” the nurturing of awe to rediscover our partner and give them the benefit of the doubt when times get hard - which will keep happening throughout life – that takes a great degree of sacrifice, too.

Laeserin 1y ago

I suppose marrying young helps me stay romantic. It's been so long, already, that I can barely remember the time before.

I've been with him for half of my life, already. Soon, it'll be most of my life.

The rest grows hazy and doesn't really matter, anymore.

Eventually, there will be no "before".

MichaelJ 1y ago

That is one of the best types of marriage, I think. It is the God-given prerogative of young people to promise away their whole lives before they know any better, and then to live with the consequences.

On the face of things, it's an incredibly stupid arrangement, but it is Very Good.