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I think there's merit in being in a social club with other fellow men that can improve your chances of finding a good partner.

The skill that most men lack is knowing how to properly socialize with other men and women.

In modern times, poorly socialized men tend to bubble up together because of social media and online relationships* which exacerbates their problem because there's no one to correct them when they act up.

(*I mean relationships as in friendships, brotherhood, etc. not romantic relations)

I would recommend joining an established club to improve your social skills which can translate into an improvment of your chances of finding a mate. The subject doesn't matter. it can be a gun club, jiujitsu class or gardening club. the point is socialization.

The Beave 1y ago

I'm well socialized. I just... Can't stand most clubs/groups larger than, oh about a dozen people.

I also don't interact much with women in my daily life. (I'm a welder. I work a lot. The most women I see is when I go grocery shopping.)

The churches in my area are grossly woke. I don't use normie social media. Heck, meetup refuses to let me sign up with my email address since it isn't from Google or the like.

The local libertarian party doesn't even hold regular meetings.

Plus... I'm a homebody and just never want to go out unless it hiking or shooting.

I do it to myself, I'm sure. Plus, I have a while host of issues that I tally need to fix before I get into another relationship, especially since the next one will have to be pretty serious pretty quickly since I don't have time to play around.

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karo 1y ago

I know what it's like to not enjoy being in large groups so joining groups for the sake of socialization is a drag and brain drain. On top of that when the group doesn't have the same mindset as you it can be even harder to mesh.

so yeah, I empathize with your 🤷

The Beave 1y ago

Thanks. And yeah. I'm very likable, though. I just... Don't get out much. *sighs*

karo 1y ago

the good ladies are out there. they're not gonna just show up at your house 😆 good luck friend 🫂

The Beave 1y ago

That would be too convenient, wouldn't it? LOL!

𝔼𝕣𝕪𝕟 𝔹𝕣𝕒𝕔𝕔𝕠 1y ago

*entering troubleshooting mode*

Any hiking or shooting clubs or events near you?

Your local libertarian party would absolutely love it if you volunteered to set up regular events, which can be as simple as meeting at a restaurant once a month. Guaranteed.

Are really all the churches woke? There’s probably folks at the least woke one who are rolling their eyes about it, too 😂 where do your friends go to church if they do?

My email isn’t google / normal and I’ve signed up on meetup. Push comes to shove you could make a throwaway one.

It’s good to recognize what about oneself needs to be worked on before entering a relationship, but at a certain point, it’s also true that everyone has something they need to work on at all times of life.

Gonna pray you meet a lady client on a welding job or something 🙏

The Beave 1y ago

Yes. The shooting clubs are very hard to get into. Very. Been trying for 2+years now.

Hiking clubs? Not that I'm aware. There are groups that organize on meet up, but since I can't create an account, I can't sign up. 😮‍💨

I'm sure that the local libertarians would love someone to organize something, but the idiots are only on FB. I'm highly suspicious of any libertarian group that only uses FB. 🙄

Every local church is painted in rainbows, and not of the biblical kind. It's rather disgusting. There are only two churches in aware of that aren't: an orthodox church and... A methodist church? I think. My sister might have found one that isn't, so we are likely going to attend for Easter. But I really don't like visiting churches on Easter. That's "best behavior" day for churches and there's way to much tomfoolery.

Friends.... What are those? I'm joking, but, none of my friends go to church. Or are at all religious. It's one of the reasons why I'm at lonely as I am.

Meetup outright rejected all the emails I tried to sign up with. I refuse to use Google anymore so... I'm stuck. Nostr has only increased my disgust for normie internet junk.

Yes, but, I'm not really what I'd consider a good partner at the moment. But I'm also someone who does more for others than my own self. I'm... Trying to correct that a bit.

I work in a fab shop. I don't go out to work on sites.

Your prayers are appreciated. Thank you.

ChipTuner 1y ago

I hear that! There's also something to be said for wanting to find people that are actively trying to be better people. In my experience that's quite rare.

The Beave 1y ago

Yes. S'why I have stuck around here. Most people here are trying to improve themselves and the world a bit at a time, even the nutty 100 a day types. Heh.

atyh 1y ago

i think you'll be suprised to find how many people are feeling this way right now.

𝔼𝕣𝕪𝕟 𝔹𝕣𝕒𝕔𝕔𝕠 1y ago

The world can be very isolating. But that can be overcome. It just takes work and determination.

The Beave 1y ago

I'm... Too lazy with people to want to do that. Lol!

The Beave 1y ago

Generally frustrated? Sure. Everyone. But... I don't fit in to many groups. I'm not a leftist nut job. I'm not a statist right-winger. I'm much more typical libertarian in that I'm personally conservative but want everyone to stay out of my business unless you're friends or family, though, I'm also pro-pedo hunting, so I'm not entirely passive. IDGAF about moyai of the "bread and circuses" things that most "dudes" are supposed to care about. I read too much and think too much and work too hard to blend in with most of the shallow people that I come across, though I do have a knack for cutting through that with people really quickly in person.

I'm an oddball in any group and I'm fine with that, but, most of the time I end up with people trying to exploit my skills without reciprocating, and I'm beyond any sort of tolerance for that. Being born and raised in NYC, I have a naturally good BS detector and having spent far too much time in the army (not by choice...) I have far too low a tolerance for any hint of exploitative tendencies.

Some how, I'm still considered good company and most people like me immediately. 🤷‍♂️