Would something we as a couple plan together be considered?
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hmmmm
maybe
ultimately, it's subjective. would *you* consider it romantic? :3
Well I did have a highschool sweetheart make me an apple pie made me feel special i don't know if
Your question has dug deeper into me than I thought. I don't know if I have been romanced, I don't know if I would be able to enjoy it. I am very practical and was angry (probably still am) thus don't invite such gestures.
My personal insights are that the masculine is supposed to woo & be romantic. I see romance as an active thing. I don't see in the matriarchs romancing.
Maybe nostr:npub1l3e2uj7dzs226s7q9utf9ghml8f3mcv7252hd69nhg2z62updklqv8zq2r is correct in that its the gentle moments as we grow old together. If so than the romance is just getting going.
this brings up the point of the question: what is romantic for a man? when you take away marriage, kids, and sex, it kinda becomes hard to define.
i tend to agree with what you're saying (it's the masculine role to woo, and thus romance), however, i have two issues:
1. i think as a culture we kind of define romance as wooing and grand gestures of love, but i don't think it has to be. i think being romanced involves an expression of love that goes beyond the physical—it's more sentimental, something that touches the heart and soul.
2. we are not entirely masculine or entirely feminine—but we are entirely human. and the desire to be seen, validated, and loved is in us, but just looks different between men and women and personalities.
for example, my Wife made me these little heart-shaped chocolates for valentines one year. it was sweet, sentimental, and romantic~! <3
She's given me some personalized and thoughtful gifts—also romantic.
i find it deeply romantic whenever She sets up routines or small rituals to serve Her.
which brings up a really good point: i find it romantic when She gives me space and opportunities to romance and woo Her~! when i can fulfill that "masculine" urge to chase and court Her. like dropping hints or clues for a gift to buy Her or a date to plan. i love it. ^^
buuuut, She did say that nostr:npub1l3e2uj7dzs226s7q9utf9ghml8f3mcv7252hd69nhg2z62updklqv8zq2r had the most romantic answer: growing old together. <33333
thanks for the thoughtful response~!