gentlemen: what do you consider the most romantic thing a woman has done for you? and no—anything sexual, "having my child," "marrying me," etc doesn't count. it has to be something special, not generic.
ladies: i'll open this up for you as well. what do you consider as the most romantic thing you've ever done for a man? (same rules apply)
#relationships #romance #asknostr #grownostr
I can't go into detail. All I can say is that I told her certain things I was forced to do in the Middle East and she still loved me regardless of how disturbing some of these events were.
to be seen—all parts of us—and to still be loved...
beautiful...
Yep. I'm not a nice person. I'll always do my best to be polite and courteous to most, but don't ever mistake that for timidity. Max-normies looooovvvee making this mistake.
i feel this.
i'm generally a nice person, but it *always* catches people off guard when i maintain my boundaries or calling out nonsense.
took me awhile to learn that.
The topic of personal boundaries is definitely an interesting one to address in todays world. Everything has become standardized. There is no personally set code of conduct, and if you do have one, you're often viewed as amoral or selfish.
this is such a fantastic point. you get viewed as or called selfish for maintaining your boundaries because it's effective to make "nice" people (like me) compromise the boundary.
it's manipulation. if it didn't work, they wouldn't do it. but it throws people for a loop when you actually stick up for yourself or when they encounter those like you who just being polite lol
I tried to be romantic, carefully creating gifts, gestures and surprises, but guys are mostly bricks and steak&bj was always appreciated the most. Christmas, birthday, Valentine's, it's just a different bow on top.😀 But I'm thinking about how it all shifted with years of family life. He's worried when I come late from rehearsal or concert, takes always all the shopping off my hands, we often hug and watch our kids doing their thing..is that romantic? I'd guess growing comfortably old together is ultimately romantic.
🤣😅"steak&bj was always appreciated the most" a little simplicity is good for every couple🤷
lol
"the quickest way to a man's heart is through his ____."
we're wired for that, but i think deep down the really sentimental stuff is what truly fulfills the heart—but i'm also a bit of a hopeless romantic. :3
the last part—extremely romantic <3
Move to his hometown and convert to his church.
"by your side til the end"
<3
Ruth 1:16 She answered: Be not against me, to desire that I should leave thee and depart: for whithersoever thou shalt go, I will go: and where thou shalt dwell, I also will dwell. Thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God.
two people
one flesh
one soul
<3
when she *told me that she wanted to have my baby,
that was pretty damn romantic.
maybe still not the sort of think you're looking for.
almost
we can let it count
let's focus on the unbelievable amount of trust found in that :3
Preparing a meal.
Giving a massage.
In that order unless I'm full. In that case, change the order.
Sorry, but men are mostly generic 😅
lol
maybe
i think there's a lot more to us
:P
a young woman got me flowers once
aww, that's sweet.
receiving flowers is very surprising and flattering for some guys.
I once gave nice big flowers to a young man, who was hosting a tiny party I was invited to by his boyfriend. I figured this is appropriate and somewhat fun gift for a host I've never met. The man was surprised, in awe and then started blushing. He loved it, said he never got flowers, ice was immediately broken. It was so sweet😊 Guys are maybe too often treated like manly men without a choice.
omg this is so adorable. that guy is basically me lol
i would consider this very romantic~! :3
i think it could go either way though—some guys might not be into it or be really insecure about it.
it certainly *feels* like we don't get a choice most of the time. but really, it takes a lot of confidence as a man to embrace it and walk in that truth. a woman's acceptance certainly helps <3
it didn't work out, but what still sticks with me was having someone leave me a meal in the fridge of my empty place coming back from a stint of back-to-back-to-back business trips. she dropped off the stack of food containers with a cute note knowing I'd be exhausted to cook and everything would be closed when i got home
it was an incredibly thoughtful gesture that led me to reevaluate where i was putting my time
that's such a beautiful gesture.
to know that someone "sees" you even when you're not present and understands enough to provide support.
being "on the road" is tough. it doesn't just put a strain on ourselves, but also our partners.
i'm sorry it didn't work out, but thanks for sharing <3
Would something we as a couple plan together be considered?
hmmmm
maybe
ultimately, it's subjective. would *you* consider it romantic? :3
Well I did have a highschool sweetheart make me an apple pie made me feel special i don't know if
Your question has dug deeper into me than I thought. I don't know if I have been romanced, I don't know if I would be able to enjoy it. I am very practical and was angry (probably still am) thus don't invite such gestures.
My personal insights are that the masculine is supposed to woo & be romantic. I see romance as an active thing. I don't see in the matriarchs romancing.
Maybe nostr:npub1l3e2uj7dzs226s7q9utf9ghml8f3mcv7252hd69nhg2z62updklqv8zq2r is correct in that its the gentle moments as we grow old together. If so than the romance is just getting going.
this brings up the point of the question: what is romantic for a man? when you take away marriage, kids, and sex, it kinda becomes hard to define.
i tend to agree with what you're saying (it's the masculine role to woo, and thus romance), however, i have two issues:
1. i think as a culture we kind of define romance as wooing and grand gestures of love, but i don't think it has to be. i think being romanced involves an expression of love that goes beyond the physical—it's more sentimental, something that touches the heart and soul.
2. we are not entirely masculine or entirely feminine—but we are entirely human. and the desire to be seen, validated, and loved is in us, but just looks different between men and women and personalities.
for example, my Wife made me these little heart-shaped chocolates for valentines one year. it was sweet, sentimental, and romantic~! <3
She's given me some personalized and thoughtful gifts—also romantic.
i find it deeply romantic whenever She sets up routines or small rituals to serve Her.
which brings up a really good point: i find it romantic when She gives me space and opportunities to romance and woo Her~! when i can fulfill that "masculine" urge to chase and court Her. like dropping hints or clues for a gift to buy Her or a date to plan. i love it. ^^
buuuut, She did say that nostr:npub1l3e2uj7dzs226s7q9utf9ghml8f3mcv7252hd69nhg2z62updklqv8zq2r had the most romantic answer: growing old together. <33333
thanks for the thoughtful response~!
My hubs cooks every night. Gets coffee going in the AM for us. And the best part? He puts up with me! Love my nostr:nprofile1qqsppdnxpjc82jlm3yn9gawhv7p4nm69a3f80rg5ycw305xned2s0hcpzamhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuurjd9kkzmpwdejhgtcppemhxue69uhkummn9ekx7mp0qy2hwumn8ghj7un9d3shjtnyv9kh2uewd9hj76z75w5 to ♾️. 🥰
#Women are vapid, empty voids, with zero capacity for #Sentience.
ro·man·tic
/rōˈman(t)ik/
adjective
1. conducive to or characterized by the expression of love.
#Nothing, ever. Dependency, parasitism, boredom, romance was invented by #Hallmark for profit.
