The second i started owning everything and just saying, yeah i fucked up, it was my fault. And then providing the group woth the solution, people started listening and following me like never before.

People can sense self-pity, insecurity and pussies. Even if they don’t think about it. They pick up on it, and steer away from people like that. Because they know they will become liabilities, untrustworthy and weak.

And the first step for me was to deny myself the «pleasure» of self-pity and victimhood. And make it my standard to own shit, no matter what it is, no matter how big or small, no matter how little i had to do with the failings.