Victimhood is one of the most difficult behaviours to manage
Firstly in yourself. “Oh poor me”. It’s unhelpful at best, dangerous at worst. A hand break on action. The most annoying trigger being the “compare and despair”…
But secondly, in others. So frustrating. People literally play things their way, the victim, due to what happens around them. It always allows for blame to be on others. There’s no true accountability of emotion
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There's nothing more disempowering than playing the victim.
To overcome it, you just have to believe that you on some level have chosen everything that you have ever experienced.
Declare it and let the internal dissonance show you the beliefs that are in conflict with it. Articulate them & let them go.
Love this
“let the internal dissonance show you the beliefs that are in conflict with it”
A good reminder to not live in the past.
The second i started owning everything and just saying, yeah i fucked up, it was my fault. And then providing the group woth the solution, people started listening and following me like never before.
People can sense self-pity, insecurity and pussies. Even if they don’t think about it. They pick up on it, and steer away from people like that. Because they know they will become liabilities, untrustworthy and weak.
And the first step for me was to deny myself the «pleasure» of self-pity and victimhood. And make it my standard to own shit, no matter what it is, no matter how big or small, no matter how little i had to do with the failings.
