This is why peer to peer personal servers are so damn revolutionary. We can't truly replace centralized platforms until every user is owner, host and service provider of their content, social graph, compute, permissions, etc. federated together voluntarily, peer to peer, with others of their choosing.
Once projects like https://vaporware.network, urbit.org, kinode.org take root, the centralized platforms (and the State with which they are so deeply intertwined) will be left completely bloodless