I very much agree with a like this take! A lot of it is in the language we see throughout legacy media, and the more we see/engage in that type of language the more it becomes the voice in our heads. I remember ages ago I used to read Jezebel and it was very funny and relatable to me, but it wasn't nice humor towards men of course. At first it felt justified, I've had many times where men have hurt me for a laugh and it made me feel sad and afraid. So here I am having a laugh at men and what, just hurting their feelings so that's better than physical hurt I've had. But that is not the way, we cannot heal hurts by spreading more hurt even lesser hurts.
If it makes you feel any better to combat the social conditioning my single lady friends and I used to start nights out on the town by chanting "we like men!" over and over again. Most of us are still single but hey, we've been able to move away from the man hating and are working on converting our other friends.
I'm not sure what pill that would be? If Nostr is purple and Bitcoin is orange maybe love is the pink pill 💖💊💖