You don't want to have a partner that needs you, that is a burden. You want to have a partner that could get up and walk out at any moment, but who chooses to stay with you. That is quite a compliment!
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i choose to need Her ^^
Do you chose to trust her and rely on her? I chose to trust and rely on my husband, but I would consider that to be different from "need".
it's just a different perspective, i think.
i could absolutely walk out tomorrow—abandon Her, and "survive." it's not a "need" in that sense.
but what kind of life would i have??
what kind of man would i be..?
She is my inspiration, my purpose, my drive, my north star. and as such, i strive to add to Her life in such a way that She feels enriched from my presence.
i don't shy away from this "need"—this vulnerability—this surrender. i embrace it willingly. it's a source of strength and resilience.
so yes, i choose this.
^__^
When I first got married, my husband tried to make sure I knew I could leave if there were any legit reasons.
I confronted him on this, as yes, there is some truth to it, but I already picked him! I believe in the covenant of marriage! I don't need the back door wide open! Please lock it. I know it's there if it's ever needed, and I have the key, but other than that, I don't need the insecurity of the potential end to our marriage to ever even be acknowledged.
However, to your point of "need". Yes, a needy person isn't good. It's way better to be wanted. To have two individually capable people who choose to partner up together. If one is weak, the over than cover, but they take turns and work together! 🙂
That's the kind of marriage I have, and want for everyone. A committed marriage between two healthy people.
I always say, if you leave me, can I come too?
Yes, exactly!! 😎