Man, where to begin.
I’d say the big one is that travel, hobbies and freindships can replace having a family in terms of meaning and accomplishment.
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It’s all inverted, the main popular culture tenets.
I’ve heard similar arguments before. Being a husband and father has changed my life. I’d argue that I wouldn’t be the best version of myself if I were not married with children. Insanely hard work but it gives my life meaning.
I grew up evangelical, then left religion. Went through a hardcore atheist phase for a couple years in my early 20s then leaned agnostic, believing there is something out there, something bigger and amazing.
Now having a daughter who’s 7 weeks old, I fully believe in destiny and an interconnectedness with the universe in a beautiful way. This was and is my destiny. Nothing even comes close to the feeling, or the purpose my life now has, for her but also for greatness.
I feel bad for people who can’t have kids, I do, and hope they find destiny in other things. Everyone is free to do what they want, for those who don’t want kids, but for me personally it’s hard to imagine my life had I not pursued this, as everything cosmically aligning and our greater purpose in this universe.
I’ve have friends that don’t want kids for fear of fucking them up, or for fear of our world. But what a beautiful opportunity to bring life into this world, and build them up to contribute to making this a better place.
Thanks for sharing this. 🤝
The minute I saw my first child’s face it was clear that everything in my life had brought me to that moment.
100%
I apologize in advance - I know it’s got nothing to do with your comment, but from one father to another, and with yours still being so little still, let me be the one to nudge you to look very critically at the vaccine schedule if you haven’t already. Health and medicine was something I did not seriously consider until I was responsible for my daughter’s life and my only wish is that I had done it sooner.
One of the most devastating things I’ve ever watched is the interviews with parents whose children developed severe autism after the MMR shot, and I just don’t want that to happen to anyone else.
My daughter’s three and it is still a battle with seemingly everyone that we stopped giving her shots but I am proud that we have.
Anyway, congratulations, dad! Glad to have you in my nostr circle.
Hi, would you be able to share the links of these Interviews? MMR shot is mandatory if you want ti send your child to childcare in Germany. After reading turtles all the way down and Dissolving Illusions I am trying to convince my wife to find another solution.
Here’s a link to Vaxxed. It’s full of parent testimonials. The same story over and over. It’s a hard watch.
https://vidsrc.net/embed/tt5562652
I read both of those books too, and we made our decision long before I saw this movie. Good luck to you!
Thank you!
Wow what a beautiful note, thanks for sharing. I’m pretty accurately described in your last paragraph.
I’m someone who always imagined having kids but then there always seemed too many reasons not to with everything going on in the world, or as you mentioned- a deep fear of doing it all wrong. Fucking it up colossally.
Living in the US currently gives us a lot of hesitation too, is this actually somewhere we want to raise a child? Can we even afford to without access to a functioning health system? Etc.
Normal concerns and fears. Counter culture tells us our lives are over and it’s expensive when we have children. This is so far from the truth. In fact, your life is just beginning and you are stepping into purpose and abundance.
Which is why it is almost impossible to start a family now, the legal system is also built around family destruction. Women are literally incentivized to break families up and have no accountability or incentive to behave in ways to keep a man happy or keep the family together.
In before someone calls me misogynistic but it’s true.
We definitely got sold that story. I’m currently writing a piece about bitcoin and how it changed my mind on that, I’d love to share it when I’m done.
Travel and adventure have always given us (both) a lot of fulfillment but as we are getting older we begin to feel that lack of purpose sneaking in…
Only Jesus can only fill that void HODL……
It isn’t a hobby, stack of #Bitcoin, frens, or even family, because all these parameters can shift/change and one is left with the emptiness they started off with……
These things are all blessings, no doubt, but the immovable foundation is Christ…….