Ahh, I don't use Damus so I can't help 😅
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So I won't be able to be nosey with yours too

Use Amethyst and it's nice and easy to see replies and to who 😀
I use Damus or Nos because I translated them. So is a totally emotional reason
Well, I have no idea wtf is relay or nip bunch of numbers.
I'm at the same time an anarchist and a bimbo, one never know each one is gonna show up. So I'm like:
I like the dudes from Damus? I'm gonna use it. I like the queer jewish anarchist dude from Nos? gonna use it, dude from Signal is an anarchist jewish and was from CrimethInc? I'm gonna use this one.

I gotcha 😂 You don't need to know about nips but relays are just how you see content and be visible on Nostr. You post your notes to relays for others to see and likewise when you're connected to a relay, you see whichever notes were posted to it.
The relays are like all the clients the stuff can be seeing on or no?
Nope. You can think of the relays like servers. The clients are the apps (Damus, Primal, Amethyst, etc.) that read and write notes to the relays. The relays are where all the data/content is stored, and the clients are how you use Nostr
Thank you for the information.
So they are like the blocs in the bloc chain I guess.