To use LN in a non-custodial manner without a node you need 2 LN wallets. Wallet of Satoshi for recieving & getting BTC into channels, & then something non-custodial like Muun or Phoenix where you can keep most of your sats. All are very simple to use.

You can then add fold into the mix & save 4 or 5% on all Amazon purchases by buying giftcards & paying in BTC. Its less work than clipping coupons.

None of the basic stuff is hard at this point, it's just new & different. There's no way around that, but telling people it's difficult is not helpful.