Let me start by saying this isn't going where you think it's going, please hear me out 😂. I LOVE my child, I love being a mother to him, I wish everyone in the world could experience growing a baby inside them it's very strange and cool. BUT I was never of the mind where I had to have a kid to feel complete, and I would have never put myself or my husband through fertility testing or treatments. I know that my life was complete with just myself and my husband, we were happily together/married for over 10 years before the kid showed up on the scene, he's the sprinkles on the cake. I could have been happy either way and I never tell people they should have kids. Younger people I've known get married and hubs and I both tell them to just be married to each other. Just being a good human being to the people in your life is valuable, be it as an aunt/uncle or the cool "old" folks across the street kids know they can come to with problems or questions. So what I'm saying is kids shouldn't define you. 💜🫂