Discussion
It’s funny how many folks in this world think they’re on some profound next level shit because they have kids.
It’s a bit boring.
By all means focus on being a good parent but have some basic understanding that not everyone is in the same situation.
I think the point should be to create something and let each person decide what that creation will be. For some, it’s life🤷♀️
All men are called to be fathers and all women are called to be mothers. It's an aspect of their soul that needs to be put to use, for their own sake. I guess being Catholic gives me some ambivalence about that use always being biological reproduction.
Who are you called to mother? That's really the big question, for every woman.
Do you think, maybe, Nostr has been giving you opportunities to mother?
I think it can both be true: some profound next level shit and not everyone is in the same situation.
I also don't have everything other people have, or I don't have it in the same way. That doesn't mean I can't be satisfied with my life.
Contentment is a choice we make.
I appreciate it’s a wonderful life changing event and that’s amazing. I also recognise that more particularly women but also men can feel a sense of shame for not having kids.
I thought humanity had got past that but in recent times I’ve noticed this more, I’ve seen a number of pretty crass takes.
Yeah nature can be cruel etc. doesn’t mean we have to be.
I think we have to be careful to not be so afraid of making minorities feel bad, that we fail to speak clearly to the majority.
I don't think Nature is cruel. People are not meant to be identical and everyone deals the hand they are dealt.
Maybe you don’t think nature is cruel but others have directly stated the opposite.
People are free to say what they want, some of the discussion about people without children is pretty crass.
It’s all moot anyway, even if Big Bitcoin Account has 20 kids, it’ll barely make an impact on North American birth rates.
If people want advice on fucking it’s probably best to check folks from Central Africa.
YES.
People online: Having kids is the most important thing I have ever done and gives my life meaning.
People irl when I tell them I don't have kids: "smart man" "lucky" "good call"
Oh yeah, it’s a wicked tough/full-time job with no breaks. Not everyone has the time and funding requirements necessary, let alone the working parts 😂
Let me start by saying this isn't going where you think it's going, please hear me out 😂. I LOVE my child, I love being a mother to him, I wish everyone in the world could experience growing a baby inside them it's very strange and cool. BUT I was never of the mind where I had to have a kid to feel complete, and I would have never put myself or my husband through fertility testing or treatments. I know that my life was complete with just myself and my husband, we were happily together/married for over 10 years before the kid showed up on the scene, he's the sprinkles on the cake. I could have been happy either way and I never tell people they should have kids. Younger people I've known get married and hubs and I both tell them to just be married to each other. Just being a good human being to the people in your life is valuable, be it as an aunt/uncle or the cool "old" folks across the street kids know they can come to with problems or questions. So what I'm saying is kids shouldn't define you. 💜🫂
Aww! I agree with this darling. I agree with the point that raising children is a beautiful thing. I just like to remind people that sometimes, people aren’t having kids because they don’t want them, but because they can’t. We have an amazing life regardless and may even adopt down the line.
I hated it when people would try to pressure me that I needed to have a kid to be whole 🤷♀️. And it is heartbreaking that people who would make amazing parents aren't able to make babies while turds just can't understand how it happened. 🫂🫂