People will always test your boundaries.

It is your job to make those boundaries clear.

If you make a few jokes with people or you hang out with them a couple of times to be "friendly", some may be confused into thinking that "they know you".

Some will then start to test your limits.

If you are a "yes" person, they will wrap you around their little finger.

If you know which lines cannot be crossed, communicate your boundaries clearly so they will know to back off.

So either be firm or be controlled — the choice is yours.

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Many people are not aware of their own boundaries. #peoplepleaser

sadly I have seen this too. They only learn it the hard way. It starts with simple favour and the next thing they know, they are too deep into things. 🥺

around Her finger is safe space

i'm right where i wanna be

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awwee sweet. it takes of getting to know one's self to realise where you can be safe and what safe looks like for you. ☺️

sometimes it's faith—or trust

indeed ☺️

I'm thinking of ways to be up-front about the fact that my friendliness doesn't mean I'm a push-over.

Too many times, recently, have people assumed that (because I'm generally easy-going), that it also means I'm willing to be ripped off, or gullible, or something. As a result, I turn into their worst nightmare.

I'm thinking that the next client that compliments me on my behavior will get a response like, "Just don't mistake that for someone isn't willing to employ a 'scortched earth' policy.", and possibly an explanation of how I do not enjoy teaching people a lesson in what I'm capable of.

So true. There will always be people out there conscious or not, they are taking advantage on others. It is up to us to recognise which line we conpromise or not. And it takes courage to say No and draw the line. ☺️