My mother was extremely ill, her parents were dead, she couldn't work due to health. My father actually tricked my mom into thinking he was amazing. My mother is not responsible for my father's poor choices. Yes she should have chose better, but she watched her parents beat each other and was rapped from the age of 4. It isn't just one thing that should or should not have happened, it was a multitude. Fortunately I chose at 6 to have a different life no matter how hard that road would be. My mom should have left my dad yes, but it isn't her fault my dad sucked. At first my Dad was offering to help with her children which weren't his, RED FLAG to any woman with children who are dating. My mother fell in love with my father when he asked if she had bread and milk for her kids on their 1st or second date. My mom was unfortunately bad with men, but my father also just sucked. However I am thankful for every bad thing that has ever happened to me. It allows me to be a better mom, and made me a better nurse when I was one. I love both of parents still and am thankful for them, I'll do better is all that matters.