The crazy-high standards other women have actually sort of make me feel bad. Like, my standards were too low and I just married well by happy accident, or something.
I was just like, yay, he's cute and fun and smart and he likes to go to church and eat Indian food and go on walks. 🥰
Like, that seemed like a really good deal. 🤷♀️ Lots of guys don't like Indian food.
Few know this.
Wait...There are people out there who don't like Indian food?
Yeah people who eat the meat and milk ghee special
Yeah, crazy.
I actually had taken a month-long Indian cooking course and was totally geeking out on cooking Indian food, but guys always wanted to take me out for dinner. But my husband came over on our second date and I cooked a whole table full of Indian food and he ate it all up.
And I still cook for him and he still eats it up. 😆 I love to cook.
South Indian no likey but
North Indian food, this is what I believe is the more popular Indian restaurants are, is super
The other question to survey is to ask men what their interest level is in a woman who places financial worth as such a high requirement or if it puts them off. Then show the results to women who do that so they understand how badly they're harming their chances of meeting someone. I have 2 friends who wanted to meet the right guy and have kids. They both did. Nunerous times. They both walked away based on wealth. Theyre both probably a little old now. The guys they dumped were great. Sad
The problem men face is the tight competition for women who don't place financial worth as a high requirement.
Most men want a woman like that, but they're rare and picky in other ways.
Like, if she doesn't care about money, she must care about something else.
There is something I need to say... and I don't want it to sound potentially misogynistic in any way. I am not in ANY regard. So... here it is: too many women love to play the victim. Gettin' all wound up about why they don't have this or that and trying to convince their partner why they deserve what they want (not what they need). Then (depending on the woman's level of toxicity) she'll begin to shame the man for not giving her what she wants or not being able to. It's even worse when the man has the wealth to get these materials for her but, just doesn't want to. 🤣😅🤷♂️ Also, listen up ladies. Ya need to stop shaming men when they get emotional every now and then. We're all human. We feel emotions just as strongly as you most of the time. Lol. You're in a relationship to support one another, both physically AND mentally. People have too frequent a tendency to forget the latter.
Are you talking about wives?
More like girlfriends. My parents had a very healthy relationship, and I've observed plenty of other ones as well. Although, I feel as if I've observed an equal amount of toxic ones too.
I'm starting to feel sorta old, as I don't remember girlfriends being in a position to demand anything. 😂
I can't keep up.
I shouldn't have taken that brief nap earlier 😮💨. Lol.
Honestly, I can't keep up neither! 🤣😅 Because the women that I dated before enlisting were never this needy! That was way back in 2006. I was discharged in 2014.
Also, that's kinda what I was trying to hint at though. LOL!!! I agree! They aren't, in any way, in a position to demand! Female ego can be pretty off the wall these days. It can be quite scary to witness. It's no doubt a combination of excessive levels of insecurity and ego, imo.
Now I'm curious what they're asking for and why? Do they want flowers or a Corvette?
I'll tell you the worst situation I've ever been in with a woman and then I have started cooking breakfast 😁👍. This girl and I dated for just over two months. This was a little over a year after I was discharged, a year and a half about, and had just moved in to my parents' house. Like, literally hadn't even finished unpacking. Then out of knowhere one night when she was over she started goin' on about buying a second car and potentially selling the house and expanding the front yard. Lol! It was honestly a bit frightening.
She didn't take it well. Had a complete mental breakdown in my kitchen. Screaming her ass off and claiming I never loved her (which was true... sorry) and a bunch other horseshit that I can't recall. It was so weird. 🤷♂️
Ha ha bizarre.
But why would you waste any time on someone you don't love? Seems rather pointless and confusing.
Great question. To be blunt, war had made me the most ruthless of pessimists. I just didn't care how loony she was. I'm not like that anymore. Alot has changed since then.
🫂 I'm glad.
I am too. Holding your child for the first time is an indescribably surreal experience.
💯
I have to go now, though. This was actually very nice. I've only spoken to one other person about the effects of my PTSD. There's a heavy stigma that can come with telling people such a thing.
I'm an Army brat. 🤷♀️
i'm a descendant of refugees and slave culture... you don't have to be in a war to have your life turned upside down by it, even a generation later
my grandfather was a conscientious objector, member of a pacifist religion, he worked in military hospitals instead of as a soldier and that's how he met my grandma, who was the child of a concubine, and of course you can imagine this kind of toxic culture comes to an end and the muslims of indonesia rose up against the dutch and so they ended up in australia... and my parents met due to both of them working a hospital related to said pacifist religion, and the residues of that toxic culture of slavery persisted with my father who got some very strange ideas about how to treat everyone in the house including twisted sexual notions and calculating physical and psychological abuse
all of these things trace back to psychopaths stirring up shit and using violence against people, it's almost primordial to the forces that bring about war
Also, this was never meant to be a generalization. Apologies if it came off in such a manner.
One has to generalise when talking about people as all so different. Otherwise you’d write a thesis instead of a post. No need to apologise.
Maybe a lot of this kind of stuff simply comes down to being more open about expectations. At the end of the day though, if purely wealth and material, regardless man or woman, it’s probably not the most healthy metric for any relationship so the whole game these days is a going to end up a little toxic if those are the metrics.
I appreciate that. I just didn't want to stir up any unintentional drama. Amethyst being my first time using social media, I have noticed that many people have a tendency to be extremely sensitive to certain opinions.
This is non algorithm social media. Just people. Be genuine and dont be an ass and all good generally. Somrtimes meaning is list in text. Ive found on nisrr, generally doesnt degenerate.
I love indian food! But, it's just too bloody spicy most of the time! 🔥
You have to cook it, yourself, and add spice at table. Like have a really spicy relish or chutney they can add.
I've never tried cooking indian food myself. 🤔 You are giving me some brilliant ideas for my date this Friday though. She's a big seafood fanatic! I'll have to look up some good Indian seafood recipes.
Nothing like a good fish curry.
I'm also an eggplant curry fan. Eat it a lot during Lent.
No need to feel any sort of guilt for these women. They do it to themselves. 🤷♂️ LOL! They choose to put their narcissism on full display. The consequences are their own. They should be perfectly aware that they don't deserve a high-quality bloke. Oh well!
I'm happy for you and your husband, btw. I don't think I'll get married. Honestly, I'm fine with that. Things are plenty cosy as is. I have enough to focus on. Luckily, not dinner though. Nan's over tonight to take care of that. 😅
