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Even when narcissists tell you they want to talk about things. Nothing could be further from the truth. Their only intention is to listen enough to you so they can manipulate the conversation to turn everything back on you. They don't want to understand, only control.

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Vyram Kraven 9mo ago

I think this is inaccurate.

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Kyle Miller 9mo ago

Care to expand on how you think it's inaccurate? Definitely open to other perspectives

Vyram Kraven 9mo ago

Being a Narcisist isn't an obsession with telling you how it is. It's an obsession with yourself. Your mind is revolved around every about you & how if affects you. Conversations would be revolved around what that person is up to & focuses entirely on themselves & shows they have no interests in other peoples activity.

Kyle Miller 9mo ago

I agree with you in that they are focused on themselves. They also have an extreme desire to control everyone and everything else. They may be entirely focused on themselves in many conversations. With people they have close relationships with they always want control over them. It may be to control what happens in their own life, but it shows up in controlling ways to everyone else.

Also in conversations about any issues with a relationship, it will all be turned back on the other person and made to be their fault. I understand this may be a narcissist protecting themselves and their ego or issues, but it shows up on the outside being controlling and blaming to the other person at best. At worst it's character assassinations.

Vyram Kraven 9mo ago

With relationships theres so many variables I don't think it's possible to make a broad assesment on it. Every situation is it's own case with all the possibilities it's possible to be & it's possible that the one who is the narciscist may be right. Relationships are just all over the place,

Kyle Miller 8mo ago

Yep. This is very true. So many variables. Generalizations are not always helpful. I do my best to help people who are struggling with narcissists. I'm open to the feedback and different perspectives.

I will also continue to use generalizations in ways that are helpful for people who are struggling.

Even when the narcissist is right, it doesn't excuse their abuse, which is one of the ways they gaslight other people.

"I was right, so it justifies my abuse."

Being right is one thing, but abuse is an entire different issue. Most of what I talk about is the abuse and healing from it.

Until we address the abuse, it doesn't matter what else is right or not.