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My parents separated multiple times. Messed with my head some. Dad is an alcoholic.

It’s been over ten years since the beginning of that, but I have an incredible relationship with both my parents now.

I never want to tell someone what to do. I don’t know you’re exact circumstances so I won’t assume much, but even though it took years it was the honest hard conversations with both mom and even more so my dad that made me better. I think it’s made them better. It’s about the approach. This is just my experience.

If you do ever have these conversations with your dad I wish you a great deal of luck.

Manbyt 2y ago

I agree, the approach is key. I think if we were in closer proximity things might be different, but we live on opposite sides of the planet and I’d want to have that conversation in person.

Fortunately, even though we aren’t close, he’s been there for advice when I needed him and he was tolerant with young radical me. I’m thankful that both my parents separated like mature adults and never used me for leverage. I had plenty of friends who experienced that.

I’m happy you have a closer relationship with your parents and those struggles made you a better person.

Not sure if you have kids, but they are an amazing mirror and have the, seemingly, inherent ability to turn us into our parents.

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Pickle Dan 🥒 2y ago

I don’t have kids. Yet.

It’s unfortunate that you live so far away. That’s been key to my getting close to my dad regardless of some serious issues for both of us.

My parents were mostly mature. Glad that you’re evolving well.