Fate and choices are both misunderstood

Your definition of fate is more akin to legacy. Fate is mutually exclusive from choice, so by definition, choice has no input into a person's legacy or life outcomes and leads to hopelessness, because it is deterministic by nature.

Destiny is hopeful because a person can opt into or out of it, and is aligned with purpose and meaning, and is the highest possible good, so perhaps you are referring to fate as some mix of destiny and legacy, although historical, they come from vastly different philosophical backgrounds and worldviews which leads to very different life and social outcomes.