My wife didn't want to do it naturally because she was afraid and didn't want to have that extreme pain and didn't want the permanent change in her body's physiognomy. If you were a woman, I'm sure you would want the same thing.
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Nope. I reckon if I were a woman, I'd want to embrace my femininity and the bodily changes that went with it, go for a natural birth as far from a hospital as I could get.
But hey, to each their own.
People, their experiences, their choices are different and must be respected. There is no black and white, life is gray, and those who understand this find balance.
Women who choose a C section and women who choose home birth have more in common than those who get swept up in the medical process and don't have feel like they have autonomy to make decisions. I'm so glad your wife had an empowered birth experience! Informed consent and choices are the most important thing in any birth.
I am a woman and didn't want the same thing
Becoming a mother is a permanent change. I 'm not sure how having a c-section improves on that change
Everyone is free to do whatever they like with their body
Yes, I agree. To each her own.
I was just responding to your claim that if someone were a woman they would want what your wife wanted.
Avoiding pain and trying to avoid change was definitely not what I wanted (and FWIW, I bounced back from my homebirth ridiculously quickly and was a rocking a bikini within a few months).
Yes, the pain was intense but it showed me what I was capable of and was also a rite of passage into the most important role I've played in my life.
I realized after posting this yesterday that it seems like I'm throwing shade on your wife. That was not my intention.
I'm just frustrated with women getting the message that childbirth - something we have been doing forever - is too difficult for them.
It didn't bother me at all, I understood your point of view :)
Thank you 🙏