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I used to suppress everything.

Felt like I had to in order to survive.

Parents didn’t care, friends didn’t care, girlfriends didn’t care.

Everyone was happy with me being a suppressed version of myself.

It was working for them and probably for me too.

One day it stopped working.

It became painful to be who I was “supposed” to be.

So I stopped suppressing things.

I started saying everything out loud.

This pissed a lot of people off.

The world shifted around me.

I lost relationships.

I made new ones.

People who respected me for who I actually was, not just who I was pretending to be.

Life is so much better now.

But it was painful for awhile.

My advice?

Break free.

That shits gonna stop working for you sooner or later.

Might as well be who you were meant to be.

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Sourcenode 11mo ago

I was listening to The Myth of Normal today. Gabor said something about the inherent conflict between attachment and authenticity.

Children often grow up learning that if they express themselves their parents will withdraw, which is a mortal threat to a child.

And so they learn to fake it, but when you wake up to that it can be incredibly liberating.

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