Relays are something that the average user should never need to think about.

They should only need to care about getting a note or a request into "the network". Once their note or request has hit "the network" the user's job is done.

The fact is that technically competent people generally don't care about relay selection, and never will.

Believing we can change that is the same catagory of magical thinking that caused people to say things like "everyone will open a channel and never close it".