Got any tips for which client can help clean up the mess?
Discussion
I think the problem is that you are not on an optimized set of relays.
On Primal I see these three:
nos.lol
relay.azzamo.net
relay.primal.net
On Damus I also see:
nostr.mutinywallet.com
relay.nostr.band
The Mutiny relay has been down for a long time, and the nostr.band relay is not known for reliability.
You’re really going to need to upgrade to a couple of paid relays with more reach.
Look into nostr.land or nostr.wine, and maybe a few others that can give you more coverage.
How can I fetch the latest relay / follow list and force push it on more relays?
My daily driver is Amethyst, the relay list is up to date there.
When you sign into PvZ do you see different relays in your settings page? If it’s not a close match it means your NIP-65 relay list isn’t being broadcast by your client. You can enter them manually and try a republish and see if that improved things.
Try adding wss://sendit.nosflare.com as a broadcast relay. That will broadcast your events to a lot of relays. Then follow or unfollow someone.
One other thing to keep in mind is if your follow list is fairly large (above 800) some relays (especially strfry with the default settings) will silently reject your follow list updates due to the size of the data payload.
Hard coded maximums like this are very stupid...
Can we fix that?
This may ve a good thread to ask an (somewhat unrelated) question: my relay kept crashing (strfry) and I‘ like to have another go at it: which relay software do you recommend (I have ample resources)?
It's a configuration value. nostr:nprofile1qqsdr0fnxvmn8hxyz8cwazfm8zu9yt7qmc38ll69nkvsgn8dnej4sxckxm0xe relays has been configured to allow 512 KB events. That ought to be enough for anyone 🤙😂
We should do a wave of PRs to all relay implementation that tops up the default.
nostr:nprofile1qqsfff483fdwhwayp0g64g3rfqgpxtpdsqzthythv9kyz0fuph0nyrspz4mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuat50phjummwv5hsz8thwden5te0dehhxarjv4kxz7fwvd5hycm4d5h8xurpvdjj7qg4waehxw309aex2mrp0yhxummnw3ezucn89ux5g35m can you increase the maximum event size please?
Yes! The relay now allows events up to 262144 bytes (256 KiB) (4× the previous limit)
Thanks!
You’re welcome! Will that be enough for your use case?
Wishing you a wonderful New Year ⚡
Seems to be good! Can you verify my connection?
Everything seems fine, however you’ve currently run out of premium time. You can top up at https://dashboard.azzamo.net
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Note: we don’t track individual relay connections, so we can’t verify specific users, but once topped up you should be able to connect and publish without issues.
Sweet, I was holding off on that because I was getting connection issues before, probably because of my follow list size. Now that’s fixed, so I’m paid up for the year.
One thing you should check is how these amounts are displayed, looks like there’s an extra zero coming from somewhere. 😉

Welcome back! Thanks a lot for your trust and support 🙏🫡
Happy to hear the connection issues are sorted and that you’re now paid up for the year. And thanks for pointing out the numbers, the minutes shown are just the time duration, not sats, but we totally get how that can look confusing at first glance and we’ll improve how this is presented.
Feel free to reach out anytime if you have more questions or ideas on how we can improve. Happy holidays and a happy New Year 🎉✨
Oh, haha…I hadn’t had my coffee yet. Yeah, not used to seeing a user represented by 525,600 minutes, but now that annoyingly catchy song from Rent comes to mind…
*year not user #typostr #forevertypo
NoteToMyself: remember this relay!