When I first got on nostr, i saw people on Twitter/X posting about nostr and their pub. I followed a couple of those npubs, they always quote or boost notes so I followed those npubs as well. That's pretty much the only way to find users.

Why would you turn off your relay? It's being used by people to store their notes. What did you want from the relay? I get the feeling you want relays to be a "community", almost like a forum.

I like your relay because it's a paid relay so there isn't that much spammers, but I see it mostly as a store of my notes and a backup of my notes.

You finding people on your relay is good but you're only doing that because there's no other easy way to find new people, you don't necessarily have anything in common with them.

It was difficult for us the beginners but more difficult for you since you've been here longer, but for new users in the future, it will be easier because normally people look up their friends or companies they like and follow them.

Didn't amethyst already have relay feeds? I remember before the newest update, There was an icon and you could turn off all relays except the ones you wanted. I didn't find anything special about the relay feeds. It was just a bunch of random people who spoke different types of languages. It's not a good way to find others because people join relays simply to store their notes not because the relay is a certain type of relay.

At least with countries, city, hobby feeds, we can find users who share the same interests as us.

That's what made Facebook the king of social media is that fact that we could easily search for people via hobby, cities, school, etc.

Facebook never had country or city feeds other then your friends feeds but apps like Hello Talk do and it is amazing way to find new people.