Subnostr

This is so well written. The paradoxical and sometimes orthogonal design of male-female desires and decision making is like the creative-destruction engine that pushes humanity forward. Really magical.

purrs_for_Her 10mo ago

it truly is.

this is the line that did it for me:

"They want him to lead, by making all the important decisions, so long as she agrees with those decisions."

i could write an essay on this and still not figure out exactly what i’m trying to express, but this is why i prefer female leadership—it *kinda* cuts through some of that noise.

i guess i could sum it up in one question:

"what do you want to eat for dinner?"

She doesn't truly want to know what *i* want for dinner (most of the time), what She's typically looking for is one of two things:

1. help Her figure out what She wants to eat (present options)

2. free Her from the burden of making every detailed decision

either way, it shows Her that i'm engaged and not being passive in the relationship.

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SuiGenerisJohn 10mo ago

This is the perrenial conversation all couples have to deal with. It's like the Japanese Ko-an that breaks your brain and which can only be answered by subtle and unspoke mutual submission so that your minds can triangulate on tacos.

purrs_for_Her 10mo ago

lol 😹

what is life?

...

tacos.

Laeserin 10mo ago

😂

But, like, if you can figure out what she wants to eat and suggest it, on the first try, she'll be like OMG HE TOTALLY UNDERSTANDS ME WE ARE SOULMATES.

SuiGenerisJohn 10mo ago

As I've said before, Im pretty much convinced I got my wife making her pasta.

purrs_for_Her 10mo ago

lol

ugh...

out of roughly 4,000 days of marriage, i've only gotten it "right," on the first try, a score or so...

;_____;