The ability to self host lightning does not absolve it's flaws. You can self host Ethereum too.
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To be honest, this whole ordeal is making me think Alby Custodial is actually a really good deal.
Alby no longer has custodial. Alby hub is pretty awesome though to get NWC with your own node working pretty flawlessly and get a lightning address.
They have Alby cloud, which is custodial
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I believe it's technically non custodial. Your keys, their cloud for your node. Is the key ever held on the cloud?