I'd worry less about what is a deal breaker for other people, people are stupid. What do you want, and you really need to think about that in a sober manner, maybe consult your mother. It takes 2 to live a decent life, if you don't want dishes stacking up in the sink, if you don't want clothes piled in the corner, if you don't want your car to be covered in bug guts, if you don't want to be living in filth, etc. "Someone has tell the waiter they gave me the wrong order, and it isn't going to be me", that's funny, but when you have to deal with contractors fucking up your house, you'll learn to value someone who has no shame in telling people they haven't delivered what was ordered. Someone has to be good with kids, or even animals, you want a dog that's getting out and terrorizing the neighbors or smells like poop? At least one of you needs to be very predisposed to managing that stuff. Are you bad at checking the mail? ding ding ding you just missed your first credit card payment from home depot! They'd better cook too.