Outbox in Write: nostr.wine
Are your followers supposed to connect with Cellar to download your posts? If so, then add cellar.nostr.wine to the "write" part of the NIP-65 list. If not, if this is just for you, then this needs to be in an internal list in the client you use.
inbox.nostr.wine put it on the DM Relay List only.
Where do you want other clients to send all events that are mentioning (p-tagging) you, like zaps, replies, likes, streams where you are hosting, etc? That goes in the NIP-65 list with the "read" option. I don't think the "wine" company has a good option for that. So, your users might not be seeing replies without other relays.
The setting of "I want to read notes from x and y" doesn't have a place. Because no one else needs to know how you are reading your posts. It should be an local list somewhere in each client.
Your replies should go to whatever relay that author is using as public inbox. I don't think it's good for Nostr to send replies everywhere, indiscriminately.