The compulsive piece stuck out to me because logically speaking, we have many compulsions and intrusive thoughts that we don't act on.

1. i may have compulsion to drink every day, but I don't do that

2. intrusive thoughts come along from time-to-time but we recognize them for what they are and continue along.

i say this because part of "becoming gay" revolved around my dreams as a kid. If one is attracted to the same sex in a dream, does this mean one is gay and it's dishonest to try to have sex with a woman.

the obsessive part would be "ok i dreamed of having sex with a man, so i should not trick a woman into having sex with me because I'm not 100% sure. and there are plenty of men who will have sex so i don't have to confront this worry about telling a woman that I also have dreams of men."

I definitely had dreams of deer (hey bambi) and I'm not out here trying to have sex with one of those.