Do you mean trauma support groups are counterproductive? I can’t agree to be negative about that, they serve a purpose. It helps to have someone to share with to get through a traumatic stage. Counterproductive would be to get stuck in that. People who don’t seek any help are way more likely to become toxic to others.
But the point is to help heal and move through whatever stages there may be. Into joy, as you say ☺️ We already have that kind of bonding: #nostr
Trauma sharing has a whole lot of value. Truman bonding with someone simply because of sharing similar trauma from the past is what I was referring to.
OK, cool. I get it. But we do bond over similarities with other people, I think that’s human nature. In general. Not sure good or bad factors in.
I’m with you on focusing on the positive, it is amazing to me the energy people devote to the negatives.
(I’m personally going through something really challenging, it’s in my face all the time, can’t escape, can’t ignore, and I appreciate that finding anything positive may be a struggle. For me, the first step is staying aware.)
Sorry for the rant. Stay joyful!
Awareness is key, I am not discarding the other emotions, I just chose to concentrate on JOY on that note. (as well as suggesting how trauma bonding is often used by abusers to get closer to their preys)
JOY and SADNESS tell you what matters.
TRUST and DISGUST tell you what to include and exclude from your life.
ANGER and FEAR tell you about your obstacles.
ANTICIPATION and SURPRISE are modifiers linked to your awareness/knowledge.
All pure, all useful, all messengers. The note I wrote is a reminder to myself, as I attempt to reconnect with the world.
