oh yeah, he was a sociopath also
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do women want to be treated badly like that? you would think that they would get wiser quick.
I know a cocktail waitress who always fall for the worse men. it's like she's stuck in taking care of a bad brother mode.
see, painting this as being all about "men" and "women" misses the real content of the story
most of the whores are spoiled brats used to getting whatever tehy want if they pout and flutter their eyelids or hold their breath or something
the guys who get these whores are those type that strut around and drive the fast car and are "bad boys", and these ones are also spoiled brats, because how else did they get the blings they needed to cultivate this? it becomes an obsession thereafter for them
and all the rest of the mess about dating now in this modern secular culture where there is not a concept of futurity or the value of virtue and prudence and chastity, it's a dead market, if you ask me
best i can think of to respond to all this shit is just get used to the idea of never finding one because they are already either taken or not worth having, because the majority of them are very confused, and some are borderline dangerous because of how twisted up their personality is
i'll just put this one in God's hands because i sure as hell have no way to fix the problem for myself, i'll stick to my philosophising and shitposting and writing code and que cera, cera
I like your reframing.
We have swallowed the "sex-positivity","you can have it all" vibe for too long.
I do think there are still a lot of people finding each other by the number of hand-holding that I see walking around.
And it's about the cars too:
guy in BMW: red flag.
guy in F150/ Honda Accord-- could go either way, leans positive
Guy in Toyota Corolla, Prius. if he's not a delivery driver -- grab him. clearly doesn't have issues.
I think it's important to be philosophising and shitposting while you're waiting for God.
Most women avoid men like that. Likewise, such men avoid us. That's probably why we don't get hit on often.
Some women like it, yes. 🤷♀️
There seems to be a connection to womens' jobs. Any woman who works close to the public, like in sales, waitressing, nursing, cashiering, etc. will get hit on a lot just because of the amount of men she's exposed to and her need to be friendly. They talk to dozens or hundreds of men every day and smile at all of them.
Bookkeepers, engineers, backoffice workers, and cleaning ladies... Not so much.
The Walmart cashier meme is indicative of how delusional men can be.
She gets paid to smile at you. She gets hit on all day. She's young because the job sucks and doesn't pay well, and everyone tries to get out of it, as fast as possible.
That's an interesting link between customer service jobs and people pleasing behavior. It probably trickles into the relationship and makes it harder to set boundaries and communicate directly.
You will also just be stuck competing with their male customers forever. Hence the divorce rates by female profession.
They tend to have churn. And since those are the women men see the most often, they assume all women are like that.
i have always liked cleaning ladies, i should hit on them maybe
Well, don't take dating advice from me. I managed to spend my entire career surrounded by eligible men and hardly ever get hit on. 😂
I think I've set some sort of negative record.
well, your observation about service staff totally makes sense, and for those whose job tends to mean zero getting hit on that gives me an edge
i've worked with cleaning ladies (i was a cleaner), and i like them, hard nosed, practical women, just never occurred to me to poke at this one if it appears, other similar back-of-house type roles
yeah the ones that do customer service have an aura of aloofness that is obviously part of their attempt to not get hit on so much makes total sense
do you have any age range, like are you wanting to have kids, or you just want a partner.
how do you know you would find someone whose an intellectual match .
this is making me think of Pearl S Buck, "THe GOod Earth" for some reason. I've got to look that up again. It's all about coupleship and changing fortunes affect it.
yeah, i want a fertile woman, i have no kids, want to have a family
people who work in manual labor jobs aren't necessarily stupid, i know this for a fact as i spent a year doing this kind of labor, and i don't think i'm stupid
but i don't need a galaxy brain, just not a mainstream media drone, this is another benefit of the cleaner girl is she may even be in this position because she refused to get jabbed, in these times, i'm sure there is other similarly low-contact roles than cleaner where all of the above would be more likely to be the case i just can't think of many... and the best way to encounter cleaners is to be around until closing time, in any case, that's when they tend to appear...
they also show up in apartment blocks in many places too, anywhere more than a few dozen apartments there will be cleaning ladies
well damn. you made me have to Google "when does a woman lose her fertility" 45 it slows down and 51 it's over apparently. do you have any grace for someone who is right at the beginning of the process?
I happen to know a cleaning lady who was fired for the situation you described... she has the wisdom of the native Americans.
I accidentally zap so many times on primal