I haven't worn makeup in a decade in any public context. There was a bitcoin documentary that put some on me but I don't know if they aired it. Or maybe a brief moment. I don't know and don't care.

My husband often says I should wear makeup for special occasions. Which means he'd like to see it and I should practice more. I ignored this for years and he keeps reminding me, but this year I'm going to do better at it, for him. We have our 7-year anniversary coming up. I'm going to try to surprise him with it.

My argument previously was I can't be good at everything. If I'm going to run our main business then maybe it's fine if I'm not great at makeup. It's not that I don't have time, although that's a factor, but mainly I don't have mental bandwidth. I wear the same clothes, I don't wear makeup, I get the same haircut, and focus on finance and tech every day. When I'm alone for a season, separated by him due to travel, rather than figure out makeup I post too much on social media and write a 130k word science fiction novel manuscript (which in retrospective, he ends up really liking) to fill our time apart. So I'm like, "maybe makeup isn't me."

His argument, as a proper method to not insult his own wife, is that it would "be a shame to not ever dabble in make up", given how I could look in it.

Objectively it's a reasonable argument; there are plenty of iconic people that look totally different without makeup. His argument is that I should at least wear it sometimes. I've been meaning to give him that view for years but I keep putting it off. Years now.

But sometimes it's a character rather than a concept that brings us to an idea. Much like novels. It's about characters more-so than plot or worlds that wake you up to something.

So I see Kristi Noem at 53 with great makeup, looking amazing, getting sworn in as Secretary of Homeland Security.

All the politicians are thinking about her new position, but realistically myself and many other women are like, "fuck, that's my new 53 year old benchmark." She looks so good. Partially because she's attractive but also her makeup and hair are just so solid. I assume she'll be weak at the job but she'll look damn good doing it.

And so I think, "Well fuck, I hope I look half as good at 53 as she does. Maybe I can ignore this shit in my 30s but I have to figure it out by my 40s and 50s."

Anyway, that's my random vulnerable mental shit for Nostr.

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HELL YEAH. YOU DO WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU WANT TO, LYN, AND YOU'RE GOING TO CRUSH IT.

Seems like makeup could be a transaction that can’t be rolled back, once committed once or twice. If I were female, I wouldn’t risk it.

I feel you. I don’t wear makeup unless I’m doing some type of public event or my friends force me into to (they’re all gay so they enjoy this). Whenever I do, people are like whoa! I don’t even recognize you lol. I can either take that as a compliment or an insult. I’m ok with either. My thing is, I have a little person that I’d rather spend my time on. But at the same time, I do like feeling good about myself. So…I. Summary, I might start doing a bit more makeup this year but it’s not going to take up much of my time. Also for the record I’ve met you in person many time and you don’t need makeup you look gorgeous girl 💜

Surprise him with some war paint. That's makeup right?

I like this idea.

softwar paint

"We have our 7-year anniversary coming up. I'm going to try to surprise him with it."

Erm...if he doesn't read your Nostr posts!

A lot of words 🙄 Just use make up for him 🤝

a lot of words is kinda her thing dude

My wife would agree. Being basically competent in makeup is a worthy endeavor. Bringing beauty to the world is a gift every women can give. But it often doesn’t take much and the art is in the subtlety.

Be you. Don't worry. My wife does use too much of her scarcest asset in doing makeup.

If you want to try go and buy the service. Not worth it learning to do it by yourself.

Inner monologue nostr Lyn is the best.

Makeup is a facade imposed on women by a visually addicted world. I've always hated it, it looks like just like the paint it is. Masking our flaws only leads to problems when they have to be admitted later. I feel bad for women who have a mandate that they can't be seen without makeup... That's sad. That's not how people should see themselves, that they need a mask to be seen in public.

Standing strong in your self is powerful. Live your power.

Do it for yourself , not for others. it can be nerdy and fun.

Skincare is my favorite- biomaxx that aging process with the best peptides, exosomes, microbiome etc. Ended up learning about a bunch of stuff that way that's been fascinating. Topical stuff is a nice entry point.

My wife doesn't wear makeup really. I think she's pretty without it and I just don't really care about that kind of thing at all; its pretty low priority for us.

However, when she does for whatever special occasion, its pretty much just mascara and MAYBE some lipstick. Real low key.

I defintely like it on her though, its quite nice.

I think there have been maybe 5 times that I can remember her wearing anything more than that, and one was our wedding.

Mascara seems like an easy solution lol

Chemicals in many things that we apply to our skin (makeup, deodorant, etc). I've seen enough to be suspicious of its impact on human health. Remnants of beauty products found with breast cancer. Not a doctor, just cautious.

My girlfriend is the same. Also zero make up only in people’s weddings does she put some “basic” make up.

Never seen her in a skirt.

It’s not that I have problem with her not wearing make up it tells more about a persons priorities and that’s the person who I like who is very practical.

But when she does it I do get stunned…

And it is something easy like she puts something on the eyelashes and they then look really long and a basic lipstick and I don’t know her already xD

I see make up as a form of lying. I prefer the truth.

I wouldn't go so far as to say it's lying. It's cosplay like at a Renaissance festival.

i hope you never wear makeup, it's horrible stuff

Makeup is just as fake as shitcoins.

you never needed any make up to look beautiful.

I love the post Lyn. Also, love that you slipped in some well deserved trolling, "I assume she'll be weak at the job but..."😅

so … your husband is not on nostr

My Mrs doesn't wear makeup and I love it.

she has objectively more beautiful skin than 90% of women.

Especially when women get over 35, makes a big difference.

Delayed gratification.

I go through seasons of wearing it or not but never too much. I’d hate for someone to catch me without it and not recognize me 🤪

Plus most makeup is full of crap!

Good luck in this makeup or not endeavor

Wtf who cares, what a woman logical rant. He BEGS you put on makeup

make up tutorials are really popular on tik tok, instagram, etc. it would be funny and a nice spin of the flywheel that a similar video by you on nostr would earn more than those platforms and speak to a lot of people in their preconceived mental model. make fun of yourself, push your boundaries, #grownostr

I enjoyed reading this. I’ve learned throughout the years (years ahead of you btw Lol) that I do like some makeup and it makes me feel good. And I’ve also accepted the fact that if I don’t put mascara on, I look like a panda bear without its black patches around its eyes. 🤭 LOL! So there’s that incentive for me that helps.

But find out what works best for you. I wear makeup, but not a lot. Too much eyeshadows, foundation and contouring doesn’t compliment me and I don’t feel as confident when I’ve had professional “doll me up”. And there’s great ways to wear it naturally vs. worrying about having to put a lot on.

This will be a fun journey for you! Hope to hear more about how it goes!! ✨💄

You could be the Lisbeth Salander of Noy Joyzee !!

Shooting dogs maybe the secret to her looks.

If the barn needs painting, paint it.