nostr:npub1wqfzz2p880wq0tumuae9lfwyhs8uz35xd0kr34zrvrwyh3kvrzuskcqsyn and nostr:npub1qdjn8j4gwgmkj3k5un775nq6q3q7mguv5tvajstmkdsqdja2havq03fqm7 have been tweaking stuff and moving some stuff server-side and rawdogging the websockets, so that's probably why there's so little friction. I couldn't tell that it had gotten faster anywhere else, as the clients are so slow, but that one spot is like a peak into the near feature. Seamless.
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Turns out if you trim down to just one or two WebSocket connections rather than the half-dozen a lot of apps use with most user configs, the relays are natively really fast.