What makes you think I can't discern what can be changed and not? That I point out that external factors exist? That's not even what annoys me the most (even though it's true, in differing amounts and specifics for different people) of such "advice" - it's the no-questions-asked assumption that I should change myself for the person posting it. Essentially "You are not good enough, do as I say". But I suppose you will just answer with something about being annoyed about that saying something about me that I should change, or, now that I wrote that, something else about something else I wrote... What's wrong with letting people be who they are?
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You're straw manning and reading your own insecurities into what I wrote. I simply dismantled your flawed logic around your attempted conflation of European, and American culture and internal and external locus of control, and last I checked a man is not his logic which is what I addressed. You're allowed to believe and be and think whatever you want, but whining about getting some pushback in a public forum, which is what's happening, is par for the course, especially when you complain about someone encouraging others, when a healthy and functional man would respond positively, but that's not what you did and I'm calling you on it.
Bashing others because they aren't what you want them to be isn't better... And I still believe that the difference between Americans and Europeans - generally, of course not everyone - holds true. You did not dismantle any flawed logic about it, you wrote your belief in the question. And once again twist every argument to me being a bad person. You are nothing but a troll. I will, for the first time, test Nostr's mute function.
You also have a serious problem with taking things personally.